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Brent Spilkin

its. ok. (Writers Vs Bloggers Vs Content Vs Delivery)

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Being a ginger, you may be surprised that I even have friends, but I do. Some of these friends are well educated “journo” types and either make a living writing or editing the written word.

As my confidence has increased with writing on my blog, the more criticism I have received for my poor grammar, spelling and layout. I have no formal training and barely passed my matric English writing exam, but I enjoy sharing my thoughts with the few people that read my scribbles. My grammar leaves a lot to be desired. I have never claimed the title of writer, or blogger for that matter, and recognize the art of writing when I see it done well and substantially better than I could do. The amount of time & dedication that professional writers put into all their work is admirable but here is where I want to make my point…

The average literate person, who reads all levels of written content, does not appreciate the subtleties that are woven into the work they read. They, like myself, don’t necessarily see the grammatical errors or note the missed apostrophe every now and then and most importantly, they don’t really care.

Now I’m not saying for a second, that the work isn’t better and easier to read if its done by the book, but I do believe that sometimes the story is more important than the way it’s delivered.

I write the way I talk. Short bullet points of content. My brain farts out ideas and I type them furiously. When I have something to say, I want to say it now and not let it stew while I rework it, day after day, before pushing the send button.

Thanks for taking two minutes, but if you want to help, maybe point out the mistakes I have made above and comment below.

Love, light & punctuation.

The pool I never wanted.

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Eight years ago, I built a house with my ex-girlfriend. I was living in an architecturally wonderful Parkhurst home, at the time that I bought when I was 20 years old. My Parkhurst pad had a pool, which was amazing for a 21 year old who was all about partying. But when we were in the process of design and building the new house, I never wanted a pool, but my ex-girlfriend did as she was the sun worshiper and I was & still am, a ginger. There was no compromise, even on the size, and the pool was dug and filled.

To this day, I hate the pool. It costs me money, takes up space and is never used. And by never, I mean never. It’s the symbol of my excessive lifestyle from 8 years ago. I look at it and just want to fill it in and cover it with Grass. Pools are unnecessary and are only good for “property resale” as far as I’m concerned.

I want to eliminate all the assets that cause me headache and cost, from my life. I want to return to what core things I need to survive and keep me happy and comfortable. After mentioning this to a few friends and colleges it’s become clear I am not the only one who feels this way at the moment. Its become apparent that my generations over-consumption and lack of inner peace is bubbling to the surface of our consciousness’.

Now, I’m no way saying that everything you do must be green (even though it should be) and I’m certainly not saying that you should become a hippy and grow your own vegetables. What I am saying is you should start questioning what & how much you consume, what you think you want to keep yourself & family content & how much chaos you have in your life. I’m saying it’s time to unclutter your existance. From the car you drive to the body lotions you apply, all should be simple, economical, friendly to the environment, not flashy and not an eye-sore to your neighbours and fellow country men around you. You don’t have to consume less, just consume quality & consume art. Always consume art.

Replace your clutter with space. Cut back on advertising exposure and listen to more music, more often. Spend time alone. Spend time with friends that enrich your mind and make you think and laugh. Spend time outdoors. Spend time with your five senses. Cut back on your commitments to unnecessary events and meaningless chatter. Say no. Sit down & eat slower.

I now ask myself “will this bring a smile to my face?” before committing to anything. It may seem selfish at first, but sometimes doing something I don’t want will lead to someone close to me smiling & that in turn will bring a smile to my face.

With physics, every action as an opposite and equal reaction. But with life-simplification, every action will have a larger more positive reaction in your life & those important to you. Swap Chaos for peace, one step at a time. Eliminate Brands, eliminate world news, eliminate ego. Add exercise, add greens, add family & friends.

While studying architecture, 20 years ago, the most important lesson I learned was based on Ludwig Mies vanser Rohe’s quote “Less is more.” This is on what the basis of life should be structured. In all aspects, less is always more. I drive a Vespa scooter. Its small and considered dangerous, but it cuts out traffic (less) and makes me smile (more). It costs me a lot less in petrol, insurance and parking money (less) and saves me time (more).


 

I am not religious, I’m not a hippy & I’m not into saving the environment or sustainable living. I just want my life to be simpler, more user-friendly & kinder to the people who are important to me. I want a smaller home, smaller car, smaller circle of quality friends. I want a bigger music collection, a bigger impact on people, a bigger smile.

Is that too much to ask ourselves?

Spillly

ps. I now want drain my pool, curve the corners and make a skateboarding pool. I will never grow up & You cant make me.






27 Reasons Why everyone is Unfollowing You On Twitter

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“Why is everyone unfollowing me?”

 

chances are:

  1. You tweet too much
  2. You don’t tweet enough
  3. You always spam me
  4. You’re following Bots
  5. You keep asking people to follow you
  6. You openly discuss personal stuff but you take everything personally
  7. You act like an enemy
  8. You don’t have a bio and you still have an egg avatar
  9. You’re following too many people
  10. You only talk about yourself & product
  11. #You #use #hashtags #for #every #fucking #word #always
  12. There are no replies on your timeline
  13. U spk sms
  14. You’re a bully
  15. You’re too negative
  16. You’re too positive
  17. You’re obsessed with how many followers everyone else has
  18. You don’t have a real life
  19. You generate too much noise
  20. You have a protected account
  21. You only follow celebrities & retweet them
  22. You retweet your compliments
  23. You’re too argumentative
  24. You find everything offensive
  25. You blame the wrong people
  26. You ask for retweets
  27. You “just dont get twitter”
Get it now?

Before every tweet you do, ask yourself if you are doing some or all of these and I promise you will maintain followers. ALWAYS.

@Spillly

Got more than 27? Let me know here.

Highly interesting stats on Twitter, my Love.

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Whether you think you need Twitter in your business to market your goods & brand or not, here are some large numbers to ponder:

 

  • Over 500 million registered users (as of March 2012)
  • 34% of marketers have gained leads through Twitter, and 20% have actually closed a deal on there
  • 40% of members don’t actively Tweet
  • It roughly takes one week for a billion tweets to be sent
  • 60% of new users currently come from outside the US
  • 80% of tweets concerning customer service are negative
  • 5% of users create 75% of the content
  • 11 Twitter accounts are created every second
  • Twitter’s advertising revenue is predicted to hit $540 million by 2014
  • The US lead the way in terms of numbers – with 108 million users – 28% of all Twitter members.
  • The US however, lags behind Netherlands, Brazil and Japan in terms of active profiles.
  • Twitter signups TRIPLED with the intergration of iOS 5, showing the impact of mobile phones on social media

Do you still think that twitter has nothing  to offer?

@Spillly

stats taken from http://www.sbwadvertising.co.uk

 

We can’t all be Justin Bieber.

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I often get asked how many followers I have on Twitter. I proudly tell who ever is asking the number, but the crucial part I don’t mention and rarely get asked is “how many people do you follow?”

For me the two questions should go hand in hand. I cant see how the number of followers can be discussed without the counter number. The right question to ask me is “what is your follower to following Ratio?” At the moment I have approximately 4250 followers and follow 250. That would make my ratio 17:1.  Simply put, I have 17 people following me for every one person I follow.
So, why should that matter? Should I even Care?
Well I care and so should you. Unless you have “fame” from sources other than social media, that number is a reflection of your social media credibility. The more followers you have gives your content or conversation the opportunity to been seen and engaged upon and shared. When I see someone that I may want to follow, I look at the follow ratio of that person. If it looks like 1:1, I assume that this person just follows everyone that follows them back and is not gaining followers by creating quality, interesting or relevant content and conversation starters. There are other factors that would make up my mind, but this is an important one. If you are interesting on social media platforms, you will organically gain followers. Its that simple.

Its easy to join the #TeamFollowBack camp and let people give you the chance to show them what you are capable of, but if you are just spamming their timeline, they will unfriend, unfollow, mute or even worse, rant online about you.

Its perfectly okay not to have thousands of followers, as in life, not everyone online can be a leader. So rather tweet less often, but make the tweets relevant to someone. Interact with the people on the platform and don’t just follow your friends and family cause they are your friends and family, especially if they don’t ever tweet. We all have them.

We can’t all be Justin Bieber (ratio 206 :1) but then again, we don’t really want to be.

@Spillly

A Modern solution to the poor mans mid-life crisis

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Lets start off by clarifying that I am not poor and not every 40-something man on a long-board is poor either.

On the contrary.

The vast majority of newly re-adopting skateboarders are well qualified, well traveled and well dressed. They are equipped with the most modern online tools & toys and are reaching a point in their lives where they need a little escapism. Escaping the wife & kids or just work is the common excuse, but for some, myself included, its ruling out any life regrets that we may have one day or have started having already. We all come to a point when we realise that life is ephemeral & fleeting, but most balding-grey 40 somethings buy a Porsche. Right?

At the very rubbery age of 20 I stopped skating. I was a street skater and not a very good one. I stopped cause I knew I had reached the limit of my fears of self-harm and started feeling it in my knees & ankles. Its been in the back of my mind ever since I stopped. I now attend skate events, I buy skate videos, I follow skate channels on Youtube and now even “Like” many Skater pictures on Instagram. It all seems rather pathetic, and my friends who never skated, just dont get the appeal of the flo-jo you get when cruising along on four 50mm wheels at 30km/h. I’m not being overly nostalgic, but Man! those were good times!

I recently read this article in the New York Times which sparked a random conversation on Twitter with my equally aged friends, Craig & Tim who both never stopped skating since their teens. The convo-timeline went something like this:

Tim: This weekend, lets meet, set you up with a deck and thrash the concrete Bowls.
Craig: Im in.
Spillly: Im scared.
Tim: Pussy

Spillly: No, really. I am..

..and so on and so forth, until eventually I ventured to the local skate shop and bought, with my private-bank credit card, a mid-ranged, mid-priced deck, wheels and trucks and had it set up by some grungy, dope infused teenager, who vaguely resembled myself 20 years ago. Right, all set. Except I needed one more thing: bigger balls. That was resolved by buying a helmet and wrist guards, the least I could do to protect my skinny brittle 37 year old frame. Bear in mind that the combined age of the 3 of us is well over 100 years.

Day 1. The Concrete bowl.

The three FOG’s (Fat Old Guys) rocked up on our Vespa’s with our skateboards strapped to our backs and swapped the Bike helmets for sports helmets.
It took a whole 10 minutes before some 12 year old girl, on a board, came cruising up to Craig & I and politely asked how old we were. I asked how old she was & attempted to explain that it was rude of her to even ask. I haven’t been on a board longer than she has been alive. There I stood, in my original converse all stars, my shiny new helmet with my heart in my throat, ready to “thrash!” or at least that was the word us cool kids used 20 years ago. I never fell once, which was easy considering I hardly moved in 2 hours. Squeezing the sweat out from the sponge in my helmet just showed how unfit I was and how much exercise skating is. Tim, who has more patience than God & has “mad-skills,” made me feel less awkward by politely pointing out that I was here, on a board, doing this!

Day 1- mostly successful.

I have been back on the board a few times and vow to continue to do so for as long as my ageing body will allow, which by all accounts, will still be a few good years. I now lie in bed planning the tricks and carves I’m going to do next, like a Olympian winter luger.
   

So if your life is a bore, your career is killing your spirit, you are thinking of cheating on your wife and are browsing the inter-webs for an affordable red convertible sports car, I have an alternative to all of those, which will re-invigorate your life. You may be called a FOG on the streets, but the level of respect from younger kids on decks is growing & that’s the least of your worries. Its exhilarating, its challenging, its counter-culture (again) and its cheap as long as you have full medical aid coverage. Its Skating for the 40+ generation and its awesome. In an age of high consumerism and information over-load, its so refreshing to go back to the basic feelings you had as a kid, in a gang on your street corner, with an attitude and a cheap toy that brings a smile to your face.

Join the movement. Lets skate!

late submission: Check out this video from Erik and tell me you aren’t a little inspired?

All Pictures taken by Tim Moolman , the Legend.