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It’s Been One Hell Of A Year, So Stop Punishing Yourself.

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So the year is fast approaching its apex and although there is a massive pressure built-up to get as much done as humanly possible in this final stretch – it should be said that it’s okay to start taking it easy and right before tinnitus kicks in, to turn down the volume just a little bit.

We can all agree that this year has been extremely unpredictable, to say the least and (without any lube) it’s taken almost every business for a rough ride; leaving many limping away in shame.

I’m usually one for telling my clients to end the year off on a high note, with high-energy and a force not to be reckoned with, but this time is a little bit different.

It’s been tough. So don’t push yourself to the edge, we’ve made it through one crazy year.

 

Fight, Flight, or Just Chill 

Other than the fact that the year has been emotionally taxing on everyone, dealing with a crisis that nobody could have foreseen, there are numerous reasons to be counting your blessings and taking joy in the fact that you’ve made it this far.

With a barrage of complications putting us on edge, Covid has certainly left behind a rotting and pungent smell.

When Ramaphosa pops up on TV, we’re left with surges of stress and adrenaline – what now? Another lockdown, more regulations? Constantly in a state of uncertainty, we find ourselves causing more harm than good.

In typical situations that call for a fight or flight response, our bodies produce the hormones cortisol and adrenaline. We’re forced to make quick decisions that cause a momentary stress for us and have to deal with the outcome as quickly as possible.

However, this pandemic has forced us on a slow-drip of these stress hormones; giving us short doses every time a new rule, regulation or barrier is presented to us. This cannot be healthy and certainly creates high-levels of discomfort in our psyche.

This slow release of hormones makes us anxious, edgy and hypersensitive (almost like a bunch of crack addicts) which in itself is physically and psychologically draining, taking a hefty toll on our minds and bodies.

We’re certainly not getting enough of the feel-good hormones, serotonin and dopamine, and need to seek out some of that good shit to find some balance amongst the chaos rummaging through our bodies.

That’s why it’s so important to ease off on yourself, a little bit more than usual. Take a bit of a chill pill and relax. I’m not saying drop everything, say “fuck it, I’m done” and walk away. Just don’t be so hard on yourself to reach unrealistic expectations for yourself, or your business.

 

A Three-Phase Plan to Find A Bit Of Solace

In the struggles that businesses are facing, there needs to be some sort of comfort found.

By constantly attempting to seize the day, ‘carpe diem’ acts as an anchor and defence mechanism, instead of a motivator. If I stay as busy as possible, I don’t need to face the guilt and think about all the stress that wants to give me an ass-kicking.

Don’t be trapped by the guilt of being highly productive; being a little bit useless or lazy is OKAY. It doesn’t have to be binary – either keep producing (1), or I’m useless (0).

You’re only human.

Take a little break and think about these three phases to deal with the end-of-year demand:

Phase 1: Is to understand. Become aware of the circumstances and understand the threat to your well-being. We all know that Covid is a huge reason for our current state of stress and this can extend to financial insecurity, guilt and anxiety around what could come next.

Phase 2: Show compassion (to yourself). There’s no better time to take a step back and show a degree of love towards yourself, be compassionate towards the hell that you’ve gone through, at least you can rest assured knowing that you’re not the only one. Give yourself time to rest and recover a little bit. Find the dopamine and serotonin in life to bring back some of that swagger.

Phase 3: Be a little bit fatalistic. I don’t generally believe in fate and prefer knowing that I have control over my circumstances, but it’s important to sometimes go with the flow, instead of trying your hardest to swim upstream. What are you constantly fixating on in your head? Let it go. Not being aware of the future reality that awaits is perfectly okay. It doesn’t serve you to wonder “what if?” rather deal with what is.

A quote by Eckhart Tolle, that certainly resonates with me, “life will always give you the experience that is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience that you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment,” goes to show that certain things happen for a reason and are meant to shape and mould you into a better person and business-owner at the end of the day.

Being present, living in the moment and finding acceptance of the current circumstances we’re being faced with will bring you far more peace-of-mind, than by needlessly stressing and wondering about what could be.

It’s okay not to over-work yourself over the next few weeks. Don’t push yourself too hard and have the burden of unnecessary pressure on yourself. You’ve done your best.

Focus on the easy high-impact work in the final stretch of the year and don’t bother working too hard on difficult low-impact work that will keep you in a state of crazy.

 

I leave you with this final quote:

We suffer more often in imagination than in reality,” Lucius Annaes Seneca.

 

I’ve been working hard to find inner peace and to be guilt-free in this time of intense change. It can be difficult to ease the mind.

If you’re facing that crunch and have an outpour of stress that your business is suffering, don’t hesitate to contact me. Sometimes it helps to have someone that has your back and understands what you’re going through and that you can talk openly to:

+2783 253 3339

brent@spillly.com

 

 

 

 

Business, Bikes and Breakfast – a Radical Accountability Program. Jo’burg April 2019.

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This month 10 business owners shared insights into their big ambitious business goals and how to start with a strategy to deliver this.

Some of the tools used included a Value Proposition canvas and a customer window matrix.

Unsure what these are? Contact us to find out more brent@spillly.com

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Are you becoming a Betterman?

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About a year ago I was fortunate enough to coach Erik Kruger from Betterman and have remained in contact over the past few months, watching his business grow and define its position in the market.

Betterman is a website dedicated to the thinking man. The man who lives with intention. The man who takes action. It’s a gathering place for those who seek influence and those who seek to make an impact in the world.

Under the Betterman umbrella is the Apex Club, an event that happens for dapper men who want to learn about life, entrepreneurship and leaving an impact. Last week I was asked by Erik to tell my story and share knowledge and learnings about my businesses and experiences. It was a pleasure to have 35 men who genuinely cared about the organisation engage with me and each other at the Maxim Lounge in Sandton.

Here are some pics taken during the event, where I was seen in a jacket [a rare thing indeed!]

 

If you are the jealous type, stop reading this now. #SnowClub15

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19 friends on a snowboarding holiday is the stuff dreams are made. Most of us are business owners and love talking about how our businesses are performing and what growth challenges we face from the white slopes of Val Thorens, Saint-Martin-de-Belleville, France.

We are eating, sleeping, partying, working and boarding at the brand new Club Med Val Thorens Sensations resort.

Most of us have been boarding several times but there are a few newbies in the crew who dont know what to expect or even what yellow snow tastes like, yet!

For those people I have prepared a list of essentials that must be packed for this epic trip.

 

For the Skiers:

  1. No one cares.
  2. See point 1 above.
  3. Seriously, why bother.

 

For the Snowboarders:

  1. Snowboard, bindings and snowboard boots. Most of us will be renting gear from Club med so don’t stress too much about this if you don’t have these items.
  2. Goggles.
  3. Sunglasses.
  4. Helmet – you can also rent this from Club Med.
  5. Jacket (waterproof).
  6. Pants (waterproof).
  7. Gloves (waterproof).
  8. Gloves for the evening – its cold walking back to the hotel after a few beers!
  9. Now these are not the @Nicharrystyle socks, but proper thick socks specifically made for snowboarding.
  10. Beanies, neck warmers and buffs.
  11. Wrist guards, knee guards, bum guards and condoms. Trust me on the bumguards.
  12. Pain medication and anti inflammatories. Take some Deep Heat rub too.
  13. Rehydrate sachets.
  14. Sunscreen.
  15. Lip balm with SPF.
  16. Contact lenses for the non 20-20 blind folk.
  17. Chargers for all the tech you need.
  18. Camera lenses for your iPhone.
  19. Spare memory cards for your cameras.
  20. A swimming costume for the jacuzzi. READ: NO SPEEDOS.
  21. Some loose fitting clothing for yoga after the day is done.
  22. You WON’T need a shovel or GPS location finder gizmo. None of us are that good that we will be hitting the back country slopes.
  23. Don’t bring casual shoes that will be damaged if they get wet like your blue suede shoes.
  24. A cheap watch because you will bang your wrists about and that TAG will be worthless.

 

You will only need a few t-shirts and long sleeve t-shirts for the day under your jacket and then a few warm items for the evenings.

Pack light – you will use less clothing than you think.

Follow the trip on Instagram and Twitter #SnowClub15

If you have any other suggestions please feel free to comment below or hit up Club Med on Twitter!

Let’s recap. #EverythingIn1 #iPadAir2

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Last week I was challenged to use the new iPad Air 2 for everything I would normally use my iPhone and laptop for; from Microsoft Excel to Instagram with the exception of making calls.  The thought of relying solely on the iPad Air 2 was more challenging than it really was.  Editing my spreadsheets was a breeze and syncing them with Dropbox was seamless.  This process has inspired me to back up my work more regularly.
#iPadAir2 Spillly

 

Some of the features I love are as follows:

  • Size:  The iPad Air 2 is super thin; it weighs under 500 grams which is great for taking to meetings as well as watching videos.
  • Display:  The Retina display is far superior to the previous iPad 1.  It uses more contrasting colours and has almost no reflective display.
  • Battery:  The battery lasts up to 10 hours, which keeps me from having to plug it in at awkward times.

Features I miss:

  • Whatsapp isn’t there.  This week without the use of my phone made me realise just how much I use this app.
  • The Silent button isn’t there; I was unable to ‘silence’ my iPad Air 2 as the button is no longer on the device.  This comes in handy during meetings especially.

 

In summary, I won’t be getting rid of my Macbook Air any time soon as it simply has all the features that I use on a daily basis.  The iPad Air 2 is perfect as a lightweight, good-looking and efficient piece of hardware that I believe can be used in conjunction with my iPhone.

Apple has done it once again!

 

ps.. the camera and slo-mo function is epic!